Everyone remembers the story that Vicky Smeya told about how Roy Smeya invited her to a college banquet at Southwestern college in Texas and then she was sitting there at the banquet table thinking about how she wanted to get up and run out the door but she didn't and then later they were married because, as Roy said, she did not run away so she was apparently his friend. So that formula worked for them but it does not necessarily fit everyone else's circumstances. Not everyone wants to spend that much time hanging out with the Smeyas. They are not the King of anything.